ASPIRE Z5761 Driver Display problems

So i've had the Acer Aspire Z5761 for almost 4/5 years and during this time i've run into the same problem over

and over the fact is the machine is kililng itself slowly i know that for the driver display problems the first

thing your told to do is go ahead and update your driver which i would gladly do it if it weren't for the

fact that when i do it the machine literally goes crazy saying that it can't detect the graphics card 

which by the way is the NVIDIA GeForce GT453M 2GB, and even if i do it manually it acts as if the graphics

card doesn't exist now the first time i ran into this problem i literally had to sit there while the machine

slowly burnt itself and eventually had to replace the parts which was all fine and dandy for about a year

now its starting to do it again but at least this time no request for an update which should be ok

since it will prolong its agony but i would like a descent troubleshoot or help for this problem since to 

me it seems like sort of "TABOO" since i can't find any information on the topic out there